I am writing this for all of you because it has been a long time coming and this has been a huge nightmare in my life and many other bloggers and brands were brought into this and wondering what happened. If you’ve been following my blog, you know that I have suffered so much with bullying and harassment from another blogger in our community for the past few years but that started all the way back in 2008.
This blogger also happens to be my ex-girlfriend. We were in a very serious relationship. Within that time I found out about multiple indiscretions she had been having and one of the people I connected with during that time was Matthew (my fiancé whom I have been with for almost 8 years.)
After ending my relationship with this woman due to her disturbing behaviour and starting a new relationship with Matthew, she had a serious personal vendetta against me that began in 2009 but slowly started to escalate after I started my blog. Within weeks of starting my blog she began emailing me (which was not unusual as I tried to keep things as cordial with her as possible after our breakup.) asking how I went about reviews and if I received free products. She had absolutely NO idea about anything organic during that time and was going through serious addiction issues which I tried to help her through as a friend. I told her about my success with blogging and three months later she created her own blog which closely resembled mine, she even started making posts and logos almost identical to mine. To this day my current logo is what she also uses (she changed it around a little after I called her out on it but it is still extremely obvious.) I would receive emails from companies telling me that within minutes of reviewing their products they received emails from her asking to also review their products, at this time I mainly worked with Etsy companies and many of these companies had never worked with any other bloggers so she was always the second person to reach out. At first I found this to be strange but then thought maybe she was inspired and was happy to see that she was following what seemed to be a passion of hers, regardless of her ripping off so much of my content. At that time it was all still petty and did not affect my life.
I felt I had a handle of things until the harassment progressed when I received a call from her the day before The Night For Green Beauty Event in NYC in 2013. The call was very alarming and she was trying to warn me of her appearance. After that night, I started receiving emails from more brands and friends but this time saying that she was claiming horrible things about me as a person. If I was featured on any sites in interviews, they would start to receive comments back to back about how I was a “fake” and had massive plastic surgery. It got to the point where I had to start emailing brands to warn them about someone possibly getting in touch after they featured me. I never used her name but most of the time these companies could figure it out because like clockwork, after any feature or review, they would hear from this person.
I tried to handle it with her directly but could never get through to her and decided to finally hire a lawyer who served this individual with a Cease and Desist order and was warned repeatedly to stop contacting me or anyone else in regards to me. I thought things were getting better until I announced my engagement in May of 2016, and that is when things got even worse.
I never, ever gave up hope that justice would prevail though my health took a huge plummet because of this stress which I am still working very hard to get back to feeling better. I have had to seek out counselling and biofeedback due to the ongoing trauma this has caused me. I’m beyond thankful that Justice really and truly has prevailed. For those of you that know me personally or have followed me over the years and have always supported and believed in me, well it’s finally over (for now. I have no choice but to take every day one day at a time with a situation like this). I have always believed and positively manifested that the “Truth will Prevail”, and it has.
Many of you have received emails defaming my character with all sorts of allegations. You may also have recent direct messages, Facebook comments, even phone calls. Sometimes from the actual person saying their real identity and other times using many false aliases. She will often claim to have never met me or dated me (despite hundreds of photograph and videos of us together and witnesses such as my entire family, her family and many friends who knew us as a couple). These are all ridiculous lies to make me appear as though I am some random stranger to her. All of the claims stated in court have been proven false. She has not only lied to brands, bloggers, friends but to the Law as well. The defamation started out as petty things but turned into absolutely horrendous, harmful and downright disturbing attacks on my character.
The MO of this individual who hides behind a mask of authenticity, has a blog that promotes living an organic life, and even has a book about healing themselves naturally has been to either email people directly and encourage those to not engage with me or work with me due to ME causing harassment to this person. It is basically my story being stolen and used for their cover up. The next MO is sending emails either from their own account, again trying to discredit me or send fraudulent documents and also under fake aliases which has so far been concerned mothers for their children. These “mothers” are clearly not real nor are the identities or stories that go along with them. They are down right upsetting to even read, never mind being accused of.
Also possible is receiving DMs on Instagram from fake aliases often disguised as bloggers or makeup artists pretending to be concerned about before and after photos of me where I show how I had lost weight from a Raw food diet. These messages go on to say that I promote unhealthy behaviour and am a scam artist. Again, all fake people and stories. The photos of me ARE real and the weight loss I had was real. Me being a scam artist is obviously not. I am on a few weight loss sites, as many of you know I used to be heavily into the Raw food community and had shared my weight loss story back when I was 20 years old. Many photos have since been stolen and used for diet scams. I of course am not involved in any of this and cannot control who uses my photos, though I did seek legal counsel about this and most photos were taken down. This person saved them, however, and continues to send them around to make it look as though it’s something different.
If those slanderous claims weren’t enough, it recently got so bad that this person actually created hundreds of fake documents with my photos, emails and even and apparent “IP address” (all which was proved to be false by IT specialist) and sent themselves anonymous comments on tumblr saying horrendous, devastating things and then trying to convince people it was from me. In these emails she sent to almost everyone I work with and know, she “implored” people to read these false documents where she claimed I was trying to commit serious crimes. With no actual evidence other than that which she herself created. This person even involved another blogger who is very well known and respected in the green beauty and wellness community and also happens to be a dear friend of mine. She tried to claim that she was also a “threat” to her and tried to discredit her character as well.
I am happy to report that I had my day in court to defend myself and I’m here today to say that I won the case. The Judge saw through all the lies, jealousy and slander and this person was found to have perjured herself in court. While Justice has prevailed, I will always have to look over my shoulder and be careful of this person as it is in my opinion that this individual suffers from severe mental illnesses that although she believes treating naturally are helping, I strongly disagree with. It is my belief that I have personally been the recipient of the decline of her mental state over the years and the resulting behaviors that go along with that. Despite her seemingly “successful” outward appearance.
I took her back to Superior Court in San Diego on December 19th, 2016, to sue for Lawyer fees and I won that as well.
This is another thing about social media. Anyone can fake credentials and write books about whatever they want. Please be mindful of this whenever you get involved with someone. I would not be surprised if this individual started emailing people after seeing this post and deny all of it. But the truth is the truth and I have the verdict to prove it.
My intention with this post is to share my truth after having such horrendous slanderous things spread about me. After dealing with such ongoing harassment I felt it only right to speak out. It’s not easy to speak up about things like this but it has been even harder for me to stay quiet. I have full intentions to stay as far away from this individual as possible, while I know this is hard because we work in the same industry, I am having to change around who I work with and where I attend events and gatherings. All I want is to move on with my life and I wish this person a full healing and I truly hope they are able to get help.
Thank you to all of you that knew right from the start that the things being said were untrue and your support for me never ever wavered. I cannot express deeply enough how much that meant to me over the years. I will never forget how much you had my back during those dark days.
I want everyone to know that you should never give up! It took a lot of help from my family and friends to stay strong through this ordeal. My health took a serious plunge during the past few years of all of this intense stress to my reputation and to my very core.
Now it’s healing time. This clean beauty and wellness community is so important to me. I will keep working hard for you and continue to bring you the best I can find in green beauty, wellness and fashion. May each of you that has sent me messages, emails and phone calls to help support me, know that I’m so grateful to you.
The person goes by organiclifeblog or taraamackey on social media. I had originally not named this person but after the advise of friends and other victims who have suffered from this type of harassment, after I have seen this person continue the actions and not take an ounce of responsibility for what they have done, I have decided it is time to no longer stay silent.
Many of you already knew who they because you have received the damaging emails.
The point is to never give up when you know that an injustice is happening in your life, or someone else’s, always fight for what is right, just do it the ethical and legal way. With your own name and with the truth.
“To ignore evil is to become accomplice to it.” – MLK