Tips that I use to Stay Positive (AND HOW YOU CAN TOO!)

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Oh, “life” it can be beautiful, can’t it? It’s not always easy, but I don’t really need to tell you that. We all have our own dealings with pain and despair that decide to visit us occasionally as well as various things to deal with in our lives. I’ve been battling chronic illness since I was a child and it was not until my late teens that it tried to consume most of my life. Since then I have had ups and downs. I have had months of adventure and joy and what seems like years of being stuck in bed or at home and feeling like I am missing out on the world outside of me.

With winter season being upon us in the cold Northeast, I find myself struggling more with working extra hard at staying positive. I, like many others, suffer from Seasonal affective disorder a.k.a. SAD. To help with this condition I recommend and use NatureBright SunTouch Plus Light and Ion Therapy Lamp (my absolute favorite). You will have most likely noticed that the photos in this post are from Spring time because I find myself always dreaming of Spring…

I also increase my Vitamin D3 intake. The company I love and use is LifeEquals. If you for some reason cannot tolerate capsules or pills, you can always try to use Liquid Vitamin D which is lovely as well. This one is my favorite. I recommend having your Vitamin D level taken the next time you go to your Primary so you know your exact number. Then do your homework and research about the benefits of an optimal Vitamin D level.

*’Research does seem to show a link between low levels of Vitamin D in the blood and symptoms of depression. However, research hasn’t yet shown clearly whether low Vitamin D levels develop because someone is depressed. Lack of Vitamin D may also be one the many factors that contribute to a depressed mood.’*

(I am not physician, so please do your own research or talk to your doctor to find out the dosage that is best for you specifically.)

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I receive many emails from people worldwide, some from other chronic illness “survivors” (I prefer this word because of the positive connotation), and when I say “illness”, I refer to any physical ,emotional pain or severe discomfort that severely alters your life) asking me how and what I actively do to stay so positive and happy. They’re looking for secrets, tips, tricks, anything to help them in their own personal struggles.

Some ask how I can take photographs or have photographs taken of myself looking all made up and happy. I’m going to share with you some of the skills I’ve learned along the way. I’m also going to say, I’m not happy all of the time. If I were to portray that here on my blog, it would be unjust. Because the truth of the matter is I go through periods of time where I suffer severely.

However, I don’t ever want my blog to become a place where people look at me and think of me as an “ill” person or someone that doesn’t do everything and anything I can to help myself. What I’ve gone through and still continue to encounter pain wise, does not define me! And I’m here to say, I’ll never stop trying to improve myself and reach for that sometimes “seemingly” impossible goal of really feeling good for an extended period of time.

Fibromyalgia, Endometriosis, GERD, Panic Disorder and Autoimmune diseases are a tough thing to deal with. I’m certain in my heart that I am going to find a way to get over and through these conditions and I will share it with every single soul I can. But in the meantime…. I will always, always, find a positive curve to throw back at whatever life puts in my way and I will continue to share that solution with all of you in the best way that I possibly can.

The truth is, we all need support and can learn from each other. We are all part of the same tribe, we can look to our friends in life, both in our social circle and here online for a loving (or virtual) hug, support, cure, idea, prayer, etc. All of the various ways we can support each other, help us to keep pushing past any limits we may have physically or emotionally and we can find solace in sharing and being heard.

Here are a few more of my tips for staying postive…

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~Look for and Love the Little Things.

This tip or “rule” if you want to call it is possibly my favorite for mantra for finding happiness. It may seem hard at first if you are sad, depressed, in pain, lonely, etc. Try your hardest to find something, anything, that you find beautiful, unique or comforting and focus on that one thing. Think about it. Love it and appreciate it. I’ve learned to love my morning cup of coffee. This simple ritual of brewing, choosing my favorite cup, enjoying the gorgeous aroma, all make me feel joy. The physical act of putting on makeup and choosing the various beautiful layered colors, taking time to notice them, play with and apply them make me happy. There are so many things in life in front of us to notice, to appreciate and to find beautiful. If you LOOK, I promise you will FIND.

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~Stay away from negativity…

This is a hard one. Easier said than done? Yes. Possible? Absolutely. However, it takes quite a bit of effort and self-control. Especially if you are a fellow blogger or are involved in some type of small (or large) community or work with some people who you don’t get along with but are forced to be around. I love blogging. I have met some of the most genuine, kind souls that I will forever be thankful for and that I call my friends. With that said, I’ve also found a few very negative, even cruel people in the blogging world and the beauty industry as well. I’ve since learned to just stop CARING so much about the people who don’t care about my feelings. There are too many wonderful people out there to waste a second over why they dislike you or are alienating you. I’ve learned that really you can’t “make” anyone like you or believe in you. You just have to live your life with the confidence that the truth always comes out and nobody really does have the power over you to make you feel bad. If you just speak the truth from your heart and conduct your life as a person of integrity, others can’t help but to know you are a peace-maker. Light always cancels out darkness after all!

A tip for avoiding negative energy from others: I almost always wear Black Tourmaline around my neck, or I have a special pouch of crystals in my purse with me. This helps to ward off negative energy.  If you would like to read more about how I use crystals you can read one of my latest articles on Mind Body Green. (I will touch more on crystals and their incredible healing abilities in another post.)

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~Tell yourself you are happy. Even if you don’t feel it at that moment…

A very helpful skill I learned about and that truly works for me is: “fake it till you make it.” You may be thinking that this sounds completely ridiculous, pointless, and even hypocritical, but hear me out! Sometimes you have to imitate confidence or even feelings of happiness to generate the real thing! It’s a proven fact and really does work. If you want to cheer yourself up, sit up straight, (force) a smile and “imitate” the feelings of happiness or whatever positive feeling you want. Your literally “tricking”, or nudging your brain into thinking these feelings are real and true. You will find you DO feel better! What you put out to the universe will come back to you.

Here’s another example, you look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself over and over how ugly and unwanted you are. Well , actually you are unconsciously bringing that negativity into your world. Your going to “prove to yourself” that you were right all along. Therefore saving yourself from additional disappointment.

Chose instead to look at yourself and say, “I am beautiful. I’m doing the best that I can every day and today I am going to be happy no matter what.” you are starting to make a switch in your thinking patterns and this can make a tremendous difference in your life. It absolutely has made a positive difference in mine. The next time you feel like saying or thinking something negative, try to change that thought with something positive right away.

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 There you have it – just a few simple changes that we can all adapt into our lives to shift our attitudes about life!

A few other things that I highly recommend for a positive attitude and outlook: Guided Meditation (I love Doreen Virtue and Louise Hay) and Finding something that your truly passionate about and do all that you can to learn about it. Being passionate about something helps you to have something to look forward to and it can make you feel happy to put your time into something you really love.

Rumi said it best…

“Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.” – Rumi


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I truly hope that this post was helpful. Please leave me comments about what you do in your life to stay positive and let me know if you learned anything new from this post. Remember – no matter how bad things are, we can only go up from where we are. Sending you ALL so much love.

In Beauty & Health,

xoxo,

Britanie

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31 thoughts on “Tips that I use to Stay Positive (AND HOW YOU CAN TOO!)

  1. YOURE BACK!!!!! I was so happy to see this in my email. What a beautiful and inspiring post. I admire your strength very much.

  2. Great post. I would recommend reading “The Happiness Advantage” by Shawn Achor in addition to your ideas. It gets into the science of happiness and modern studies that proves the science.

  3. First of all, I’m SO HAPPY that my babe is back to blogging. I have missed you! Second, I love the new look of your blog, and I’m excited to see what new posts you bring. You are much more than a green beauty (as we all are), and I love learning more about my blog friends. What drives you? What do you bring to this Earth? What can we learn from you? I aspire to do more of these types of posts, but opening up is hard, and that’s because as fun of a place the Internet can be, we all know there are haters out there.

    And that leads me to comment on your point about negativity. You are so correct. I think we get into this la-la land of “oh blogging is so happy and fun and drama-free,” and that just isn’t true. There are people within green beauty, beauty, blogging, Instagram, etc. who are not what they seem, and until you have been personally affected by it, you don’t see it. I’m not one for drama, especially when blogging is my HOBBY and not my livelihood, so why do we have to all be so mean and critical of each other behind the back? I don’t get it. It’s hard to ignore it / keep on grinding, but that’s what you have to do. Negative people hate to see you be happy and thrive and will do anything to take that from you because it’s what’s missing in their lives. DON’T LET THEM! Keep being you and we all must remember that we can’t be everything to everyone. And that’s OK.

    Anyway, happy to see your new post and looking forward to reading more. xoxo

    1. Thank you so much babe!! You never cease to make me smile and make me feel so so supported. I completely agree with you that l we can do is keep grinding and ignore the negativity, it’s just not worth it. There are so many positive things to focus on in life, why stoop down to the level of people who only want to cause drama? Not worth it!!! I also love learning more about all of my blog friends.. We are all so much more than what we review or wear on our face and I love to see people open up though I know it’s not always easy. Love you so much girl 👌❤️💜

  4. Thank you so much for this beautiful post, Britanie! I recently subscribed to your blog and I am so so grateful I did. Reading your words were exactly what I needed to hear today, and a wonderful reminder to stay positive no matter the circumstances.

    Again thank you so much, and have a wonderful rest of the day!

    1. Hi Carla,
      Thank you so much for subscribing! I am so happy that this post and my words resonated with you. That makes my heart happy beyond words ❤️

  5. Dear Britanie,

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey! I know how difficult it can be to be both honest and positive when living with chronic illness. You are such an inspiration! I so greatly appreciate your openness and the strength that you share through it!!! You are a beautiful person with a beautiful soul.

    <3<3<3
    Charis

  6. Thank you so much for this post! This could not have come at a better time and I will be on the search for black tourmaline asap! I have Rheumatoid Arthritis, Fibromyalgia, GERD, Fibeomuscular Dysplasia of the carotid arteries and brain and can always use help with fending off negativity. I look forward to your crystal post. Have you tried essential oils or Bach Flower Remedies? I am curious about those as well as Himalayan Salt lamps too.

  7. What a beautiful post! To stay positive I meditate for at least 5 minutes every morning. That’s also when I say my affirmations and it really helps set the tone of the day. Moving my body in some type of exercise also helps me stay positive and getting outside to breathe the fresh air even if for only a few minutes. It’s pretty cold here still! I like Taylor Swift’s song which I’m going to quote: “The haters are gonna hate, hate, hate but I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake it off.” Sending you love & light reiki style!

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  9. I think of you often whenever I hear certain words and phrases (flowers, roots, passion, natural beauty, and more!) and I know that you strive to improve yourself. You always have, and I know you have overcome many of your struggles and are still working through others. When I think of strength, I think of you, for you are an inspiration.

    I appreciate all you do, and I support all your endeavors.

  10. As inspiring as ever! We are all human and I think it’s important – as you have pointed out – that we have positive and negative feelings, but there are ways to control them and not let the negative consume you. A lot of people could learn from your attitude 🙂

    Just the little things always make me feel better, and of course, dancing it out!

    Mayah x

  11. Hi Britanie! So happy to see you back to blogging. You’re such an inspiration and I’ve been reading your blog for a while now. I usually start and end my day with the Five Minute Journal. I take a few minutes to remember the little things and how I can improve my day. It’s quite calming. Thinking of you and hoping you feel better! (:

  12. What a lovely post Britanie – there is something for everyone to learn from this. It is too easy to get caught up in a pattern of negative thinking – and sometimes we don’t realize it until we are feeling really crummy – anxious and/or low. The daily gratitude journal works in my family so well. No matter what there is always something to be grateful for – even if it is the little things. XO

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